A long pause..... a period of serenity in my life where I had nothing to say and little time to talk with. The nicest two months I can remember.
But now.... a little time and an idea to bring to the forum.

The swift is often fleeting... it builds quickly and tumbles the same way. Too much, too fast. Especially in a relationship. With people, you have to build slowly. Like the surf, try to run in and you may get farther faster... but when the water gets deep you trip and fall. It IS hard to keep a walking pace, though.

I have had a time. I may be in the unique position of being an ear to listen on both sides. And as much as I had, before, envied the level of intimacy... I can now still rest comfortably on the security that I have. But I would not wish the devestation on anyone. Advise is so difficult to give.... so much emotion. And advise is so logical a thing. Logic can never breech into the realm of emotion, the two don't play by the same rules. So you sit there and listen to everything that is said, give all the logical advise you can give.... and what have you done? You've listened. The biggest help you can do is listen.
Most people know the answer.... have always known the answer, they just don't want it.

How brief their flame, but how bright they burn.....
maybe.... just maybe.... this too, shall pass.